Hurt, Help or Impress?

It has been said that when we communicate with others we are doing one of three things. We are either trying to:

• Hurt
• Help, or
• Impress

Today, pay attention to your communication with others. Notice how often your truest intention in that communication is to either hurt or impress those involved. Also, notice the result when your intention is only to help another.

Caution:

People know when we are genuinely interested in them and their success. They know when our truest intention is to help, and they will always respond by genuinely caring about us and wanting to return the assistance. This is the secret sauce in business.  

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Real Relationship Capacity.

Why are we so afraid to talk with our people about what is really going on with them?

Is it that we believe personal matters have no role in the workplace? Or, is the truth of the matter that we are afraid of the answers we might get if we dared ask the real questions begging to be asked; afraid of the discomfort we would experience at having to realize how ineffective we are at interacting with others on a personal level?

We reason that handling another’s personal challenges is not our job – and perhaps it is not. However, as often as professional challenges impede performance, personal challenges are at the root. Pretending the case is otherwise is simply naïve.

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Coaching for Performance – A Perfect Partnership

Imagine that tomorrow you meet someone who you will readily welcome into your life. 

This is a very special kind of person, one who looks right past the superficial parts of your personality, your typical defenses, the insecurities you’ve worked so hard to mask, and the failings you’re ashamed to admit, let alone accept.

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